The first step in breaking free from a struggle with pornography is to tell someone. It’s important to remember that’s not out of shame. You don’t need to be punished. You’re not “turning yourself in” to someone who is going to help you get in line. We don’t report symptoms…
This past week, a friend alerted me to an article detailing hundreds of sexual assault cases found in Independent Fundamental Baptist churches throughout the U.S. and Canada. Sad to say, this didn’t shock me. I was raised IFB. I was first exposed to sex in elementary school by classmates at…
How do you help women who struggle with pornography? It might surprise you that it’s really not that hard. It’s not necessarily easy either. I would say it falls somewhere in the middle. While the method is rather simple, the implementation can be difficult. Helping women with their struggles with…
It’s that time of year, filled with thankful trees, Advent candles, Christmas wishes and New Years Resolutions. I decided to launch this week’s blog post a little early so it would be gracing your inbox just in time for Thanksgiving. I debated somehow including a recipe for a killer apple…
How long does it take to break free from pornography? That’s a common question asked by people who struggle and the people who help them. In a world filled with quick fixes and 8 week plans, it can feel like the road to freedom should be simple and fast. After…
Where is the premarital prep book for women who’ve been addicted to porn? Turns out, there isn’t one. At least not the kind I thought I needed. In case you missed it, I recently got married. We both waited into our 30s (I was 32 and he was 34). Totally…
If you’re a woman who struggles with pornography or lust, you are probably familiar with shame. Shame is the voice that says you can’t tell anyone. It’s the lie that you are a horrible person. It’s the slave driver screaming at you to try harder. It’s the belief you have…
Several months ago, I opened the floor for women to write in and share their struggles with pornography in a series entitled “In Her Own Words.” It’s one thing for me to tell people these women exist; it’s an entirely different thing altogether for these women to have a platform…
How does pornography affect a woman’s marriage, when she’s the one with the problem? That’s not a question many ask and even fewer know how to answer. When we talk about porn’s effect on marriages, ninety percent of the time we’re addressing a husband’s use that devastates the wife. We…