We’re talking about the idea of purity right now and I have to wonder, why so much of the Christian faith seems to center on sex.  One of the first books I wanted to write was going to be called, “True Love Does Not Wait.” I said that during a…

Purity was a big deal in the 90s.  I grew up with purity rings, purity pledges, purity conferences, books, and songs.  But, as an adult who speaks to teenagers, I have to ask myself, is “purity” outdated? I don’t mean the idea of abstinence, but the actual language itself.  Over…

Sometimes, we know the next step but we don’t know exactly how to take it or what it looks like when we do.  That’s the case with many young women who write to me asking about the idea of telling someone. My first advice to anyone struggling is always, “You…

In 2012, an app was released called “Whisper.”  The purpose of the app is so people can post content anonymously.  This is not an endorsement of the app.  I’m merely using it to highlight the idea that while we’re more connected than ever, we apparently feel less safe. Confessions once…

Recently, I was speaking in New Zealand and had the opportunity to do a city-wide all women’s Q & A specifically addressing the issues of fantasy, pornography, abstinence and singleness. It was amazing, and I would be thrilled to do more of these. The category that seemed to be hit…

Father’s Day… as the years have gone by, this day has gotten easier, but there was a time in my life when this day brought nothing but pain.  All of the Christian platitudes in the world did nothing but make it worse. I was young when my father left our…

By now, you’ve likely seen or heard the story of Maddi Runkles, a Christian teenager at a Christian school not far from my hometown.  At the moment, she isn’t allowed to walk in this year’s graduation… because she is pregnant. To me, this story is less about sexual purity and…

Do you know what makes stuff like pornography, lust, fantasy, and one night stands so enticing?  It’s not necessarily the sexual gratification (though that is for sure part of it).  It is that, on the outset, these things are easy.  Easier, at least, than love.  Love, relationships, real intimacy is…

Trigger Warning: I have noticed a disturbing trend in the search terms that lead people to my site.  Creeping ever so slowly up the list are searches having to do with “daughter sex” or “daughter porn.”  And it makes my blood boil.  My top search term in Arabic is “daughter…