Perhaps you’ve seen the trend of choosing a word for the new year. Instead of resolutions to lose weight or learn a new skill, people choose a word they hope will define their year. Here’s what December 31 can look like for a porn addict. Man! I really screwed up…
The holiday season can be hard for those who are single or struggling, mostly because it seems to highlight what we don’t have. This Christmas, we are heading to Florida to visit my brother, his wife, and my brand new nephew. My brother. My brother who is two years and…
You’re a man in church leadership and want to help everyone in your church, but then a woman comes to you and confesses a porn problem. What do you do? If you’re like a majority of men in the U.S., you’ve been raised to believe that porn is a man’s…
“Why is no one talking about women and pornography?” That question comes up a lot. The other question that comes up a lot is “Do women really struggle with pornography?” I feel like the two practically answer each other. Yes, women struggle with pornography and their stories are heartbreaking. No,…
The rise of #metoo is more than just a trending hashtag and media story. It is ripping the lid off a culture marked by sexual exploitation and assault. It is a call for that culture to change, but how? Stories of sexual assault are not new. Nor is it new…
Breaking right before the end of the purity series to talk about the new book! Years ago, I wrote my first book, Love Done Right: Devos. Last year, I decided that book needed a do-over. That newly remodeled book will hit the mail (probably not the shelves) in just over…
Today, I am excited to share a guest post with you. Rebecca Lemke is the author of The Scarlet Virgins: When Sex Replaces Salvation. I value the perspective she brings to this discussion because she is married. Too often, when I talk about things like the purity culture, I think…
Over the years, perhaps courtesy of the “purity” movement, sex has become a little bit like fight club. What’s the number one rule about fight club? We don’t talk about fight club. What’s the number one rule about abstinence? We don’t talk about sex. At least that’s how it seems.…
The fundamental argument of the purity culture is that sex is meant to be enjoyed within the confines of a committed marriage. Sexual activity of any form outside of that is not how God intended it. I wholeheartedly agree. However, I wholeheartedly disagree with the approach of the purity movement.…