When the news broke about Josh Duggar’s membership on Ashley Madison, I honestly cannot say I was surprised. My heart absolutely broke for Anna and those kids, but the fact that Josh had made these choices did not surprise me. No, I don’t just assume that every man…
Let me preface this by saying I am nearly 30 and still a virgin, so this is not an attempt to justify or pass blame off for adolescent (non-existent) sexual escapades. This is an attempt to change the way we talk about sex and abstinence, because while I may be…
I started writing this followup to my previous post Kissing is Not Sex. A couple thousands words later (that is no exaggeration), I realized a few things: 1. I was still nowhere near making my point 2. Thousands of words is far too long for a blog post All of…
To kiss or not to kiss: that seems to be a question I get a lot. My first kiss was some time during elementary school. While our class was on our way out to recess, two snot-nosed boys were arguing over which of them was my ‘boyfriend.’ Mind you, I…
I had originally intended on continuing the series on accountability today, but something on Twitter last night caught my eye. There was a conference on The Gospel and Human Sexuality in progress and many people were tweeting live from it. So, the top trending topic was #erlcsummit. I was excited…
Yesterday marked five years since the day I first put my story online. Beggar’s Daughter was not a blog then; it was just a webpage. Just a story. Just my story. I thought that if I shared it just that once, God would leave me alone and let me continue…
As we start up this series on Accountability, it is important that we have a clear understanding of what, exactly, we are talking about. A basic definition of accountability is this: Refusing to fight for freedom all on my own and inviting someone specific to join me in the fight. Some…
Over the years, I have often written or spoken about triggers. Usually, when I do, I get an e-mail from someone asking: “What does it mean to ‘find your triggers?’ What does that look like?” I realize that as a former addict who knows her triggers, it is ‘easy’ for…
Reblogged from Covenant Eyes When I was asked to review Sexual Sanity for Women, I was far less than excited. As a woman who battled pornography addiction, I know the frustration of trying to find resources to help me. At first there were none, and then the men’s resources were just…