I’m kicking off a new ‘series’ here on the blog. I am getting more and more e-mails and instead of answering them one-by-one (which I would love to do but don’t practically have time to do) I’m going to start answering them here on the blog. I’ve called the series…
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The Pictures Never Go Away: What I wish I had understood about sexting
I was seventeen when a man asked me for pictures. I’d love to say I don’t know what I was thinking, but the truth is, I knew exactly what I was thinking. “I really don’t want to do this.” There were several reasons. Body image issues, insecurities, the fact that…
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Why Am I So Tempted When I’ve Never Fooled Around?
You were raised in the church. You followed all the rules. You were “warned” about sex and how it was “dangerous” and were cautioned against igniting sexual passion too soon. “Don’t fool around,” they told you. So, you didn’t. By all accounts, you were the perfect picture of physical…
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Motivation or Inspiration- Which One Do You Need?
When it comes to developing self-discipline, there are usually two ways to keep growing. You either thrive with motivation or inspiration. In the past, I have been asked, “What do I have to do next in my journey of freedom?” And I really really wish there were some 1,2,3- do…
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When “Everybody Else” is Getting Married
Tomorrow will mark my grandparents’ 62nd wedding anniversary (yes, 62). My brother and his wife just celebrated their first anniversary earlier this week. Next weekend, I’m going to a bridal shower for a friend from college. (My mother was quick to remind me that she is the last single…
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Do Christian Women Really Watch Porn?
The first sizable speaking event I had was a conference in Canada in December 2010. I remember telling one of the male speakers my topic. “I talk about women struggling with pornography.” There was a bit of a pause- you could probably call it awkward. “Hmmmm… well that’s interesting. That’s…
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Why I’m Not Anonymous
The pre-release copies of my book showed up a couple weeks ago. I opened the box and started to tear up. I’m so relieved that this project is done. I’ll be introducing you all tomorrow. One thing I struggled with the most as I worked on it was what to…
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Does Your Pain Matter?
Perhaps, like me, you’ve caught yourself saying these things over the past week: “Well, it’s not as bad as what she’s going through, so it doesn’t really matter.” “I got myself into this mess, so I have no right to complain.” “It’s not going to change anything, so why even…
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The Healing in Brokenness
This was not the planned post for today, but, when I woke up this morning, my brain was already writing it. I hate when my brain gets a head start like that. It takes a while for my fingers to catch up. I was going to post this on my…