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  • Featured,  Resources

    Why There Aren’t More Resources for Christian Women Struggling with Pornography?

    When it comes to Christians struggling with pornography, the market is relatively flooded with resources for men. (Still, over 90% of churches have no support for men or women). This is how it was even decades ago when I, a Christian teenage girl, searched for help for my porn addiction. For years, I thought my consumption of pornography was healthy and even normal. I saw it as a safer alternative to sleeping around and a way for me to express and explore my sexuality while still honoring all of the tenants of purity culture. My church didn’t talk about pornography, other than vague mentions of “Men, what you are looking…

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  • Pornography and Marriage

    How to Porn-Proof Your Marriage (A Guide for Wives)

    When we talk about Christian women struggling with pornography, I think it’s important we acknowledge married Christian women also struggle with pornography. This tells us two things: First, it tells us that marriage won’t fix your porn problem. Second, it tells us we need to address the issues that are unique to married women who struggle with pornography. I posted something on Facebook recently in regards to the question, “What would I tell a wife whose husband is going to be gone for a while and has asked for pictures of her so that he doesn’t look at porn?” This is not an uncommon or unheard of scenario in my…

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    How Do I Support My Wife Who’s Using Porn?

    March 20, 2021

    What Does it Mean to Marry a “Leader?”

    November 1, 2022

    Should We Treat Porn Like Cheating?

    March 6, 2021
  • Women and Pornography

    I’m a Christian Woman Who Struggled with Porn. This is the Hardest Part About Sharing My Story.

    In 2009, I started sharing my story about my struggle with porn addiction. I did so anonymously at first because I didn’t want to deal with people knowing this was my story. I felt like I was the only woman in that world who had this struggle. No one needed to hear my story. No one cared. In late 2010, I stood in a room at a conference in Canada. I was leading a breakout session for women on the topic of lust and the room was packed. Every chair was full, women stood around the room, and some even sat on the floor near where I was speaking. The…

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  • Featured,  For Parents

    Porn and Parenting: How to talk to Your Child about Porn

    As part of the Porn and Parenting Series, I reached out to my friend, Chris, at Protect Young Eyes. PYE shows “families, schools, and churches how to create safer digital spaces. Through a pretty great website, super fly presentations, and a unique learning app for parents who have ZERO free time.” Chris’s approach to porn as a parent is refreshing and unique. He believes that your kids don’t need controlled, they need coached, and it’s an approach that I believe is hugely effective.  This content originally appeared at Protect Young Eyes and has been republished by Beggar’s Daughter with permission. Parents, this blog post will require around 7 minutes of your time – 7…

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    July 17, 2021

    On Culture, Sex, Influence, and Why Personal Responsibility Matters

    April 10, 2021

    The Journey of Quenched: Discovering God’s Abundant Grace for Women Struggling with Pornography and Sexual Shame

    January 28, 2023
  • For Parents

    The Best Age to Begin Talking to Kids About Pornography

    As part of this Porn and Parenting series, I wanted to reach out to some friends who are experts in teaching parents how to talk to their kids about pornography. Today’s post is from Kristen Jenson, author of Good Pictures Bad Pictures: Porn-Proofing Today’s Young Kids and Good Pictures Bad Pictures Jr: A Simple Plan to Protect Young Minds; producer of the Brain Defense (TM): Digital Safety curriculum; Founder of ProtectYoungMinds.org (now DEFEND Young Minds!); owner and CEO of Glen Cove Press, LLC. I’ve had to privilege of presenting alongside Kristen at several events and have seen her heart for protecting young kids from the effects of pornography. Her book…

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    August 7, 2021

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    “Boys Will Be Boys” is Killing our Men

    June 8, 2016
  • Featured,  Pornography and the Church

    Resources for Helping Pastors Address Pornography

    (Updated August 2023) As we wrap up the Porn in Church series, I wanted to round up some resources for pastors. Before I do that, though, I wanted to offer this quick word of encouragement and “advice” if I may. It is very important for you to realize when you’re in over your head. Pastors and ministry leaders have a unique position of being the “go to” person for the people in their care. Rebellious teenager? Go to the pastor. Struggling with an eating disorder? Ask the leader for help. Some leaders get drunk off that power trip and love pretending to be the source of answers for everything and…

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    The Journey of Quenched: Discovering God’s Abundant Grace for Women Struggling with Pornography and Sexual Shame

    January 28, 2023

    Boundaries, Discernment, and Why You Might Reconsider Redeeming Love

    January 20, 2022

    Three Things I Wish Parents Understood About Their Kids and Porn

    March 27, 2023
  • Resources

    Resource Review: We Too by Mary DeMuth

    The purpose of this blog isn’t just to address women struggling with pornography, but really to change the conversation about women and sexuality in the church. How does grace impact our struggles and intersect with our wounds? How can the church immitate the love and grace of God while addressing things like sexual addiction, sexual identity, and sexual abuse? Since I just finished up the series addressing porn in the church, I wanted to highlight a resource that addresses another issue in the church: Sexual abuse. As a victim of sexual abuse at the hands of someone in my church, this is something I hold dear. I’ve written about it…

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    The Journey of Quenched: Discovering God’s Abundant Grace for Women Struggling with Pornography and Sexual Shame

    January 28, 2023

    The Flirtation Experiment and Why Intimacy Matters

    February 11, 2022

    What Do I Need to Do to Stop Watching Porn?

    June 3, 2022
  • Pornography and the Church,  Women and Pornography

    What Every Pastor Needs to Know About Women and Porn

    We’re kicking off our Porn in Church series with a guest post from my friend, Sam Black. He’s sharing a bit of his heart on what pastors need to know about women and pornography. In the weeks to come, posts will address more practical nuts and bolts of how to address this issue in churches and help women find healing. Please, share this series with your pastors! Editor’s note: Sam Black, a vice president at Covenant Eyes, is writing a book to pastors on how some churches are successfully addressing pornography among Christians. The following is a condensed chapter excerpt. Want to be the first to hear about the book’s…

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    July 10, 2021

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    July 17, 2021
  • Women and Pornography

    Resource Review: The Great Sex Rescue by Sheila Wray Gregoire

    I’ve been looking forward to reading The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You’ve Been Taught and How to Uncover What God Intended since the moment I knew it was going to exist. As a writer tackling issues of sex and sexuality in the church, I’m a fan of Sheila’s work. The conversation on sex in the church needs to change. That’s just a fact. So, when Sheila and her daughter, Rebecca, started down this path of addressing lies women believe/are taught about sex, I jumped in support. I gladly donated a stack of old Brio magazines for their research. A couple months ago, I reviewed Talking Back to Purity Culture…

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    December 23, 2022

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    April 17, 2021
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