It’s a question so many women have: How am I supposed to tell my family? My husband? My kids? My parents? Perhaps you didn’t know this. Maybe you did. But my family doesn’t talk about what I do. It’s a complicated dynamic. Along with fierce loyalty and love, there’s some…
You know what’s tricky about pornography? It’s portable. If you have an issue with drugs or alcohol, you can put physical distance between you and your vice. But if I lock you in a room with access to absolutely nothing, you can still struggle with pornography. I get it. I’ve…
As we start up this series on Accountability, it is important that we have a clear understanding of what, exactly, we are talking about. A basic definition of accountability is this: Refusing to fight for freedom all on my own and inviting someone specific to join me in the fight. Some…
Over the years, I have often written or spoken about triggers. Usually, when I do, I get an e-mail from someone asking: “What does it mean to ‘find your triggers?’ What does that look like?” I realize that as a former addict who knows her triggers, it is ‘easy’ for…
Reblogged from Covenant Eyes When I was asked to review Sexual Sanity for Women, I was far less than excited. As a woman who battled pornography addiction, I know the frustration of trying to find resources to help me. At first there were none, and then the men’s resources were just…
(Edited in August 2023) Yep! That’s me. I figured I am better off using one of my own pictures than incriminate some royalty-free model. Besides, it will prove my point. There are quite a few of us who have made the mistake of sending our pictures to someone. Obviously, I’m…
I’ll never forget sitting through a church service and listening as the preacher, over and over again, with disgust talked about how sick people in pornography are. The men who watch it are sick. The women in it are sick. The men in it are sick. Sick. Sick. Sick. I…
A young woman wrote in asking me why there couldn’t be a twelve-step program for breaking free from pornography. How many of us would jump at the offer of “Six Easy Steps to Break Free From Pornography”? It would be great! A best-seller, and a world-changer… But that’s not how…
Today, I am happy to feature a guest post written by Christian author and speaker, Shelley Hitz. Shelley has co-authored a book on Christian women and pornography addiction. I have read through the book and I will say that it could be a valuable resource to so many of you…