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Porn and Marriage: Should I Get Married if I’m Addicted to Porn?
If you read my last post on saving sex for marriage, you might have caught that this is a topic I’m becoming increasingly more passionate about. My husband and I enjoy a beautiful, strong, marriage and it’s something I honestly wish for everyone. I believe it’s what God wants for us, and so many marriages are really hurting. I had to take a break after finishing that last post because my heart was so heavy. This month, we’re launching into a series that will tackle just a few of the questions I get regarding pornography and marriage. For the sake of every post in this series, I’m going to be…
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Does God Hate Me for Struggling?
As part of this Does God series, I really wanted to address a question I get quite often, “Does God hate me for struggling?” It’s not always so direct. Sometimes the woman has already answered it in her heart and mind: I’ve stopped praying because I’m such a hypocrite. I know God must be sick of me. There’s no way God could keep loving me. I open my Bible and feel like such a failure. This is a topic and angle of this struggle that is near and dear to my heart. It’s the exact thing I address in the book I’m trying to get published. The shame that so…
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Does God Care If I Watch Pornography?
We’re kicking off this year with a series that is essentially taking us “Back to the Basics.” This blog is written for a Christian audience, for Christian women specifically. It’s more than just a blog about women who struggle with porn. It is about helping women restore a relationship with God. The hope is that women reading this experience grace. What we believe God believes about our struggles is an important piece of that experience. If God doesn’t care about what I’m doing, I don’t need to stop. If God thinks I’m worthless because of my struggle, then I have no access to hope. The original question that raised the…
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Christian Women Watch Porn? Consider This Your Wake Up Call
“Dad, most of the girls I know watch porn.” – a teenage son to his father “I don’t know what the big deal is, every girl watches porn.” – a 12 year old girl in a Texas church “Please help! We did an anonymous survey of our youth group and 100% of our 9th and 10th grade girls indicated they struggled with porn.” – a youth leader from a church in Tennessee There’s a storm coming, and the sirens are sounding. The warning system that tells you to get ready and seek cover. A person much wiser than I once said that it just takes four generations for something to…
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Why God Doesn’t Just Stop You From Watching Porn
At the height of my addiction to pornography, I prayed God would stop me from watching. The process went something like this: I would think about porn all day long. I would get back to my dorm room, sit down at my computer, log in, open up the browser, type in the web address, and before hitting enter, I would say, “Ok, God. I don’t really want to do this. I need Your help. Please don’t let this website work.” Guess what? The website worked every time. And when it loaded, I would feel some sense of justification. “If God really wanted me to stop doing this, He would help…
