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For the Female Porn Addict: What Delights You?
“Why do women watch pornography?” I get asked it often at speaking events, usually by older women or baffled men. For so long we’ve said porn is a man’s issue and have ignored the issue(s) women have with it. So, when I share about my own struggle with pornography and the fact that I’m not alone, some people struggle to understand why. Why would a woman watch something that is so degrading toward women? Why would a woman gain arousal from something that is blatantly unrealistic? Why would a woman consume a product that often glorifies rape and contributes to sex trafficking? My question in response is: Why would a…
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I Don’t Pray for my Future Husband
When I speak at college or high school events, sometimes I’ll get asked about the practice of praying for my future husband. More and more I see it addressed on other blogs and by other speakers on the issue. I used to do this, (and write him as well!) but I don’t anymore, nor do I encourage young women to. I came of age during the True Love Waits Movement. Signing purity pledges, writing love letters to your husband, and praying for your future husband were all standard ‘assignments’ for young Christians who wanted to honor God with their sexuality and their future marriages. I did them all for…
