True Love Does Not Wait: Are You Waiting for all the Wrong Reasons?
We're talking about the idea of purity right now and I have to wonder, why so much of the Christian faith seems to center on sex. One of the first…
Tag: dating
Question Girls Ask: What Characteristics Should I Look For in a Future Husband?
Recently, I was speaking in New Zealand and had the opportunity to do a city-wide all women's Q & A specifically addressing the issues…
Thoughts on Online Dating
Happy February! All you singles, get ready. It’s coming. Brace yourself for the cheesy commercials with the catchy jingles. Let’s talk about online dating.
Most importantly, I do not feel there is a Biblical yay or nay in regards to online dating.
The question “Does online dating glorify God?” is about the same as asking if salted caramel gelato glorifies God.
(It better, because it’s what I am eating right now)
I think there is a balance. There is a balance between obsessing over it and shunning it like it’s the devil. That is a balance we have to maintain in all areas of our liberties. Our freedom to do something can quickly morph it into an idol.
In most Christian circles, we combat that by just labeling it as ‘bad’ so people will stay away from it. This leads to judgment, legalism and a whole lot of rules with Scriptural scoliosis.
We get some Scripture, twist it all around and make things straight up sinful. If you date online, you are no longer trusting in God. You are usurping His power and authority, etc. It’s right there in the first epistle to the e-harmonites.
When Should I Tell My Boyfriend About My Porn Problem?
If there were a list of top-ten most frequently asked questions from girls who deal with pornography, this would be one of…
Kissing is Not Sex: Part 2
I started writing this followup to my previous post Kissing is Not Sex.
A couple thousands words later (that is no exaggeration), I realized a few things:
1. I was still nowhere near making my point
2. Thousands of words is far too long for a blog post
All of that to say that this topic is probably not succinctly covered in two little (or not so little) blog posts. Whenever we look at anything regarding relationships, there are variables and lots of them. One size simply does not fit all. A relationship between two people with past sexual experiences will look different than a relationship between two virgins in their mid-30s. Both relationships can have radically different guidelines but both can honor God.
So, how do we develop these guidelines of maintaining purity? If they are not one-size-fits-all, how do we know what is ‘good’?