We all do it. As our determination dwindles, we are faced with the choice to compromise. Think about all the other New Year’s Resolutions you have ever tried to make.
You decide to cut out sugar, and sure enough, a friend invites you to a party complete with exquisite dessert. I’ll just have half a piece of cake, you think. I’ve been good. I’m allowed to ‘cheat.’
You decided to work out every day, but five days in, your body is sore, you’re dead tired, and you just don’t feel like it. Instead of a full workout, I’ll just do a couple of push-ups. It’s better than nothing, right?
Beware of this attitude when it comes to lust. It looks something like this:
I’m so stressed. I need release. I’ll just look at pictures instead of video, that’s better, right?
It isn’t hardcore pornography, it’s just sex games. That’s different than before. I’m still doing a good job! Right?
I won’t fantasize about sex. I’ll just imagine that he and I are making out.
In his book, Sex Is Not the Problem (Lust Is): Sexual Purity in a Lust-Saturated World (formerly Not Even a Hint), author Joshua Harris makes the point that we are not to have a hint of immorality in our lives. Our battle again lust is not like our battle against the bulge or our battle against being a couch potato.
Compromise for us is as good as falling. We have a standard, a goal we are striving for, and that goal is not to simply be better; it is to be changed. This is a battle in which we cannot afford compromise.
- Continue to take time throughout the day (set that alarm!) to pause to pray for strength and to look over Romans 6:11-13.
- Implement ‘roadblock’ #3. This may be another line of defense if 1 and 2 fail, or it may be a ‘speed bump’ to slow you down. If 1 was moving my computer to another room and 2 was activating parental controls, then 3 might be installing a software like Covenant Eyes or it might be eliminating other triggers in my life, such as certain kinds of music.
- Refuse to compromise. Be aware of little compromises in your life (the little foxes spoil the grapes). As you go through today watch out for thoughts like, “Well, it isn’t as bad as…” or “At least that’s better than…” A general rule: If you’re comparing, you’re compromising.
(below are links to the different resources I mentioned above. I do make a small comission off these links, but I will never encourage products I do not stand fully behind)
Sex Is Not the Problem (Lust Is): Sexual Purity in a Lust-Saturated World, by Joshua Harris (Kindle Edition)
Sex Is Not the Problem (Lust Is): Sexual Purity in a Lust-Saturated World, by Joshua Harris (Print Edition)
Covenant Eyes Accountability Software (First month is free)