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Make Porn Inconvenient in 2013

In general, we are a lazy people.  Even the most dedicated and determined of us enjoy our moments to sleep in and our items of convenience.  Anyone who disagrees has no car, heats with wood, grows their own food, cooks over a fire, makes their own clothes, and is probably not reading this blog.

We just like when things are easy.

Let’s face it:  pornography is easy.  Masturbation is easy.  Fantasy is easy.  Lust is easy.  Sin is easy… too easy.

No longer do we have to trek to a corner store in a red light district to buy a magazine in a brown paper bag.  Now we can subscribe to have it sent straight to our e-mail.  With the new internet browsers we don’t even have to worry about cleaning up our history after ourselves.  We have phones, tablets, touches, pads and whatever else that put anonymous access to immorality at our fingertips.  And we wonder why we have a problem.

Forget needing a man to bring your body pleasure.  Do it yourself and avoid all the hassle.  You don’t need the drama and the potential risk of a relationship.  Just take care of your own needs.  Be independent.  Be your own woman.  Who needs men anyway.

Porn, masturbation, and lust are the convenient, instant, zap-a-snack alternatives for satisfying our sexual desire.  Instead of taking the time to develop a committed, healthy relationship, we spend no time to indulge our desires while avoiding any kind of relationship with any person.  Like fast food is to the body, so lust is to the heart- a quick, easy, and deadly alternative.  What was meant to be filled in a healthy, satisfying way is instead crammed full of empty substance.  It ‘satisfies’ the desire but kills the soul.

I would venture to say that women started falling to pornography when pornography became convenient for us.  None of us would be proud to walk into an adult bookstore and walk out with hours worth of video and a stack of magazines, but now there is no risk- no risk of being seen, no risk of being known, low risk of getting caught.  It is easy, and so we fall.

So, let’s make it inconvenient.

One of the best things we can do to save us from our lazy selves is to make it ridiculously inconvenient to fall to lust, pornography, and masturbation.  Many of us try to make it impossible, and impossible never works, but inconvenient certainly helps.

As you start this new year, with all of the fierce determination that this is going to be your year, think of obstacles to put in your way to help ‘break your fall.’  Many of us have a clear-blazed path to failure.  This and such happens, which leads to this, and then before we can blink, we’re drowning in guilt and shame because we just fell.  It’s like the old board game Chutes and Ladders.  It takes you 20 moves to get to a point, but slipping all the way back only takes one wrong move.  Find ways to slow that fall.

Some Suggestions:

Eliminate Tools of Convenience.  I am being vague here on purpose because I don’t want to spark creativity in some of you.  Some of you have certain everyday typical household items that can be stumbling blocks for you.  Get rid of them.  Buy different kinds that won’t assist you in sin.

Distance Yourself.  Maybe you can’t get rid of those, then move them all the way across the house. Make it so you have a bit of a walk in order to access those.  Give yourself time to think about what you are doing.  The closer something is, the easier it is to click into ‘auto pilot’ and fall ‘without thinking.’  In some cases, those items themselves might be a trigger, so moving them out of sight can help.

Take the computer out of the bedroom.  Nothing you do on there should require the privacy of your bedroom walls.  If you are working on a project, move it to the living room or the kitchen.  Get yourself out into an open area and leave the computer out there.

Install filters or accountability software, or disable your ability to clear history.

Have your own idea?  Share it in the comments!