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Tips for Lust-Free Prayer {Part 2}

It is a fact for many of us that lust can easily take over our prayer life.  We close our eyes to pray and boom!  There it is.  It can make us feel defective.  Not only are we women who struggle with lust; we are so out of control that we cannot seem to turn it off long enough to pray.

But I think there’s hope for us.  As I said in the first part of this series, I believe that part of our struggle with lust creeping into our prayer life is due to the fact that our prayer life is boring.  It shouldn’t be, but nevertheless we find it a task.  We feel overwhelmed by it, as if it is one more thing to add to our spiritual to do list.  We assign postures to it and time.

If you are a woman who struggles with lust creeping into your prayer life, I want to encourage you to try to make your prayer life more engaging.  You can look back at Part 1 of this series.

Here are some more tips for lust-free prayer.

Communicate Your Way

The prayer formula we know and follow is, I feel, very much geared toward extroverted personalities.  If you are an introverted personality like myself, the more you eliminate outside distractions, the more you get distracted.  I can get lost in my own thought, sometimes, which means one moment I can be praying.  Five minutes later I’m planning meal menus for the next month and I have no idea how I made that jump.  It’s one of the reasons why I also hate phone conversations.

I am a visual person.  I either communicate through face-to-face or through writing.  Since face-to-face isn’t happening with God right now, my other option is to write.  It makes perfect sense to me that if writing is a major form of my communication that it would be a major form of my prayer life.  Do I write out everything?  No.  But writing helps me stay focused and ‘start the conversation’ in my heart and head.

I know some who are artists, and communicate best through poem, or song.  David was like that- many of his prayers are captured for us in the Psalms.  Other friends of mine are painters or illustrators.  However you communicate, it make sense that you would incorporate that into your prayer life.


Use a prayer journal, notebook or sketchpad to help keep you focused.


Practice the art of the minute prayer

You want to experience a walking, constant, relationship with God?  Remember that He is always with you.  Let that fact rock your world and shape your prayer life.  I think, sometimes, we fall into the trap of believing that prayer has to be at a certain time.

The Psalmist said early in the morning I will seek you, so I need to get up early to pray.  Daniel prayed 3 times a day, so I need to pray three times a day.  So-and-so suggested once every hour, so I should do that.

I want to challenge you to practice the art of praying in the moment.  I think it could be a game-changer in your relationship and your walk of freedom.  Let me explain:

You wake up in the morning, do your devotions, and then pray, “God, please help me not to fall today.”  You check it off your list and move on with life never really making time for God again until that night when you pray, “God, sorry that I fell today.”

How much different would that scenario look if we practiced the reality of the nearness of God?

You wake up in the morning, do your devotions, and pray, “God, please help me not to fall today.”  Then, throughout the day, as temptations come up, as emotional triggers are pulled as things in life happen, you take a moment to cry out to God for strength.

What prayer is left for you at the end of the day?  Hopefully just a prayer of thanks, and an overwhelming comfort in the reality that He is with you.

I hope you see the difference there.

This one thing, more than the others has completely revolutionized my own faith.  I’ve gotten rid of prayer lists and prayer cards and have learned to pray throughout my day as God lays people on my heart or as I interact with people or as I face temptation.  It is a very tangible way to remind yourself He is walking this journey with you.  It is one of the best practices to have in place so you can ‘take every thought captive.’


 Take 30 seconds-1 minute throughout the day to pray as God lays things on your heart.

Use your time of ‘saying grace’ before a meal to also share your thoughts on the day.


 I’m sure there are plenty more.  There are probably even books out there on how to make your prayer life more effective/exciting/purposefully/etc.  The main point I want to drive home is your prayer life needs to be something precious to you, and it can’t be if it bores you to tears.

It is all about intimacy with God, and that will look differently for you than it will for someone else.  That is OK.  Work on cultivating that intimacy in your life, however it will look, and I think you’ll be surprised at how much your struggle with lust changes.

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