We’re still talking about healing the mind as we walk on this path of freedom. At the moment, we are tackling the world of fantasy. It’s something that is still quite painful, maybe embarassing is a better word, for me to talk about because it is probably the hardest struggle I faced. I’ve already shared a bit of my story and laid the groundwork for why certain types of fantasy are wrong. There is a place for God-honoring fantasy, and I plan to address that in a future post.
For now, let’s head to the source of all truth (and reality) for some good firm reasons to keep our minds firmly planted on the ground.
For the sake of this ‘discussion,’ fantasy is an non-existent reality consisting of fictitious characters or fictituous situations that have little or no likelihood of ever occurring.
What makes us turn to fantasy? As mentioned in the previous post, we have a desire to escape.
Then it can become like second nature. There was a point in my life where I could not function unless I pretended I was someone else. I couldn’t even vacuum without pretending I was so-and-so and she was taking care of her family so she needed to vacuum. I would vacuum, the whole time pretending to be her, carrying on conversations with ‘people’ in the room like they were in so-and-so’s (my) house while she (I) was vacuuming.
Fantasy was my way of Coping with life- it was a distraction. it was a god.
Really, that’s what fantasy boils down to. It is a god. So, freedom from fantasy is found in uprooting that god and putting the real God in its place. Here’s the deal, God does not exist in your dream world. He exists in this one– the one with green land, blue water, sinful people, good people, pain, joy, death, life. He exists in life, which means if you want Him, you need to keep your feet on the ground here.
1. Remember how precious life is. Yes, it can be painful. Yes, people do really stupid things sometimes and hurt people they love. No, it isn’t perfect; but it is precious. I love James 4:14 in the Amplified. It says,
Yet you do not know [the least thing] about what may happen tomorrow. What is the nature of your life? You are [really] but a wisp of vapor (a puff of smoke, a mist) that is visible for a little while and then disappears [into thin air].
Don’t let that discourage you (oh, what’s the point… I’ll be dead soon anyway). Let it encourage you! Your life is far too short to spend it living somewhere else! Your life is rare! It is precious! Spend it wisely!
2. Remember His intention. When God created you He wasn’t looking to fill an empty spot in the globe. He didn’t look down and say, “What do you mean there are only 5.7 billion people?! We were supposed to be at 6 by now, hurry up, let us make .3 billion more to fill in the space.” No, dear friend. Your life has meaning, worth and value. Your life– not the life of someone else whom you pretend to be– your life. From the moment of sperm meets egg, He knew you, loved you and had a plan for you. That won’t happen if you aren’t being you.
For You did form my inward parts; You did knit me together in my mother’s womb. I will confess and praise You for You are fearful and wonderful and for the awful wonder of my birth! Wonderful are Your works, and that my inner self knows right well. My frame was not hidden from You when I was being formed in secret [and] intricately and curiously wrought [as if embroidered with various colors] in the depths of the earth [a region of darkness and mystery].
Psalm 139: 13-15
3. Remember His promises. They are great and many. They are strong and unwavering. They are unchanging and true. His Word holds in it a treasure of promises for us as His children. Here are two though I really want to point out, because they speak to this struggle with fantasy. The Amplified does a great job of just turning each into a Bible study; read through each and let His word do what His word does. We’ll chat about them more in the next post.
For no temptation (no trial regarded as enticing to sin), [no matter how it comes or where it leads] has overtaken you and laid hold on you that is not common to man [that is, no temptation or trial has come to you that is beyond human resistance and that is not [a]adjusted and [b]adapted and belonging to human experience, and such as man can bear]. But God is faithful [to His Word and to His compassionate nature], and He [can be trusted] not to let you be tempted and tried and assayed beyond your ability and strength of resistance and power to endure, but with the temptation He will [always] also provide the way out (the means of escape to [c]a landing place), that you may be capable and strong and powerful to bear up under it patiently.
1 Corinthians 10:13
The thief comes only in order to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have and enjoy life, and have it in abundance (to the full, till it [a]overflows).
PS: Did you see that? He came that we might have and enjoy life… Think on those things.