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Identify Your Assets

This is the final post in week 3 of the series of Practical Steps in Freedom.  This week has been about looking around you- at the relationships in your life, both the good and the bad.  It has been about identifying ways your struggle with sin has directly and indirectly affected those around you.

People can big our biggest assets in this journey.  Yet, so often, we try to go it on our own, convinced that no one can help us.  Or, if we do ask for help, we expect them to fix us.  They can’t.  They are just people.

Still, we need them.  We need each other.  We need our community, our families, our friends.

Every individual person in your life can teach you something.  

Know Your Enemies

Tomorrow, we will be wrapping up week 3 in this series Practical Steps in Freedom.  This week has been about looking around us at the relationships in our lives. 

Pornography causes relationships to suffer, regardless of what they are.  As a daughter, you will interact differently with your parents- perhaps hiding behind a veil of secrecy and lies.  As a wife, you will interact differently with your husband- maybe drifting off into a fantasy world while he is trying to love you.

Part of our walk in freedom is to begin healing those relationships and investing in them.

At the same time, we have to acknowledge that not all relationships are healthy.  Think about the people in your life.  Are there any who make this struggle harder?


Does anyone else feel increasingly disconnected in a connected world?  I got  smart phone a few months ago now, and after a while, I deleted nearly all of my apps.  I feel like the more stuff I am connected to, the less connected I actually am.

I am not alone.  There has been a rise of awareness recently that all of our ‘connections’ leave us relatively disconnected from the people around us.

How many times have you seen a couple on a date and,in mid-conversation, one of them stops to check their cell phone.  I admit, I have even done that, and I’ve walked back from the bathroom during a date to find my date doing that.

We have lost the art of being with people.

Think Out

As we have walked through this series, there have been a lot of personal changes being made in our lives.  We have to know our boundaries and what temptations are the worst for us.

This week has been about others, about connecting to others, and starting yesterday you should have begun the process of rebuilding bridges likely burned down by pornography and lust.  Your ‘step’ for yesterday was to say, “I’m sorry.”

Today I want to challenge you to take it one step further.  You can apologize to a stranger and it does not make you best friends.  Apology is simply a recognition of wrongdoing or hurt feelings, it alone does not patch up a relationship.

Rethinking New Year’s Resolutions

Happy New Year, everyone.

You probably woke up this morning with a new sense of purpose and determination. Yesterday, you mapped out your plan for this year.  You made your resolutions, made your list, picked your one word.

This will be the year, you think.  The year you stop watching pornography.  The year you get a hold of your heart and finally are rid of this struggle.  

You have hope the hope of a fresh start.  Everything is new.  

Then, perhaps, you have already messed up.  Just hours into this new page, you have already fallen.  After being so determined yesterday, you slipped today.  Your mind wandered to places you didn’t want it to be.  You got online to update your Facebook and ended up on a porn site.  You thought about how you spent New Years Eve alone and started to masturbate.