Category: General

The Secret to Setting Goals (So You Can Actually Reach Them)

Setting Goals

It’s that time of year.  That time right after Christmas, when we have eaten too much and spent too much and we make a resolution to stop eating so much and spending so much.

A new year symbolizes new beginnings, new dreams, new hopes, and second chances.  It’s a fresh slate and we determine to make the most of it.  So, we set up goals- New Years Resolutions.  There are the ‘tangible’ ones: losing weight, running a marathon, getting $5000 in your savings account.  Then, there are the intangible ones: being a nicer person, spending more time with family, developing a better routine, breaking free from porn/alcohol/drugs, etc.

Whatever your resolution is for the new year, you have more than likely been down this road before.  In fact, you might be sitting here reading this thinking of all the resolutions you didn’t successfully accomplish this year.  It can be frustrating, discouraging, maddening even.

As you look ahead you might be filled with a sense of defeat.  You don’t want to dash your hopes and give up on your dreams, but if last year is any indication, you’ll never make it.  So why even bother, right?

Perhaps it is time to change your goals, but not in the way you may think.

Where Do You Run For Answers

Technology is an amazing thing.  We have so many answers literally waiting at our fingertips.  Years ago you could Ask Jeeves (anyone remember that?).  Now, you can Google it, or ask Siri. We can instantly access scores of articles, columns, lists, tips, forums, blogs, and so on.  An ocean of information just waits for us to surf it.

If we are not careful, though, we can drown.

This is not so much about pornography. Yes, pornography is out there, like a shark in the ocean, but this is more about priority.

Recently, I have been going through some interesting and new struggles in various areas of my life- from health concerns to personal matters to research for writing.  I have found myself, in every situation, running first to the internet, typing my question into the search bar and reading through the (often conflicting) results, desperate for a definitive answer, hope, encouragement, tips, tools.

That is a problem for me.  I do not want it to be one for you.

Spring Cleaning: Catching You Up on All the Series

My ‘regular’ readers will know that I took February and March off to work on the site and to just take a bit of a breather.  February was filled with a lot of growth and working diligently on connecting within community.  March was spent building up the site to what you see now.  It was my intent to provide a more all-inclusive experience to connect you to resources and help answer questions while making it easier to manage on my end.

As I am sure you have noticed, I have been a little slow on the restart.  I apologize.  I hope to one day share the story of what is distracting my time right now, besides planning for my upcoming trip.  I want to get back into the swing of things including picking up the three series I left hanging.

Yes, that is right.  I left in the middle of three unfinished series.  So, let us take a bit to recap.